I was drawn to what psychotherapist, Ken Page terms as “attractions of deprivation” – when we are drawn to people who embody the worst emotional characteristics of our parents.Basically, the theory explains that we are attracted to people who can wound us the same way we were wounded in our childhood, as our psyche tries to recreate the past void and save us by changing its ending.But somewhere in between the passing of a decade, something changed. I became independent, confident, and started to value my self-worth. Now, this has nothing to do with the actual age of a person.I went through hardships and heartbreaks and picked myself back up which built my strength and courage. And as a woman, you are attracted to very different things than you are as a girl. I’m referring to maturity, life vision and stage of life.Whether it's someone you're meeting online or it's someone your friends know, aim to drop the things you know about them and start fresh.Don't ask your friends to tell you everything they can because you can end up with a tainted view of what to expect.
Back in the day — before women became more independent (thanks, women's rights movement! For the most part, dating was easier: A man courted a woman and both of them knew the end goal if courtship went well: marriage.
And now with the proliferation of online dating apps and websites, it can be even more daunting.
is difficult enough because of cultural and stereotypical challenges.
The two services used by these individuals were OKCupid and Match.com, two of the largest and most popular dating websites on the Internet.
What I learned from carrying out an interview of a female and the interview of a male trying to dig into this intriguing subject was that using the Internet for dating is equally painful for men and for women, but for very different reasons.
Unfortunately, this kind of gender racism will continue unless we see Asian men in leading romantic roles.